Baker’s Dozen – Signs That Your Child Has Actually Become an Adult

Our New Year’s Day 2013 started with a move.  Our middle child, who was on temporary assignment in Indiana, made her official permanent move away from our family home to her new home 1,400 miles away in Arizona.  (Three down, two to go).  That made me think of . . .

Signs That Your Child Has Actually Become an Adult

1)  You have a newly and completely empty room in your home.

Rachel's Empty Room 2012

Our daughter’s old, pink room is now empty.

2)  Their extra stuff is no longer stored in your basement.

Rachel Move Loading the Truck

Packing for the big move from the Midwest to northern Arizona.

3)  They have possession of all of their personal papers including their Social Security card and immunization records.

4)  They call someplace else “home”, and they have become a “guest” when they are in your home.

5)  Their new residence looks more like a home than a college dorm room.

Rachel Bedroom in Flagstaff

Our daughter’s new bedroom is decidedly more adult looking than her old, pink room.

6)  They pay for their own utilities and have their own Internet.

Rachel Desk in Flagstaff

Oh, the challenges (and stress) of setting up utilities, including Internet, for the first time.

7)  They have moved away from their favorite color of childhood (pink) to more grownup color schemes (teal, plum, & gray).

Rachel Living Room in Flagstaff

We had fun helping our middle child spend her money on things for her new home.

8)  They own their own power tools.

9)  They no longer use your address to get their mail.

10)  They have an adult job with benefits.

Rachel Stream Picture

Our daughter is an environmental engineer and this is a picture of a stream that she helped to design as one of her reclamation projects.

11)  They are no longer covered on your health insurance.

12)  You no longer can claim them as a dependent on your income taxes.

Rachel Kitchen in Flagstaff

We love that she has decorated her new home with some of her daddy’s, grandparent’s and great grandparent’s things – DSH’s A-B beer box, my father’s old engineering books, my grandmother’s old doll lamp, and DSH’s father’s old tube radio.

13)  You no longer pay their cell phone bill.

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6 Responses to Baker’s Dozen – Signs That Your Child Has Actually Become an Adult

  1. Mary Q. says:

    You likely will recieve her mail for years to come. My MIL still recieves mail addressed to her children. She is in a new home and they have been out of college, married, and have grown children of their own. At least you will not have to forward or save any of it.

  2. Mrs. Tucker says:

    #14: They check your blog and then call/text/chat with their thoughts!

  3. LOVE this. I used to feel I was the Official Keeper-of-the-Stuff, and now, as you say, they are all taking what they value with them as they set up their own independent households. Hmmm… though I am still weighing the appropriate time frame for the next move – how long do you think it remains my job to keep the ‘other stuff’ they left behind?

    • Mama says:

      Thanks for visiting and commenting! This is my rule – when they move out, they take it all or it is up to me what happens to it. Our two youngest kids are in college, and they are the most nervous – they are afraid they will lose their stuff before they are ready to move out completely! Since we have moved a few times over the years, they are not overly attached to this one house – thankfully. Thank makes it easier to downsize to a new home. At the end of the day, it is not the stuff that defines us anyway. It is our relationships with one another.


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