The First Few Days in Our Empty Nest

Our babies, our twins, are off to their first year of college.  It seems like we have been working on this all Summer, but after several trips across the state getting kids moved in and settled, they finally finished Freshman orientation weeks and started their first week of regular classes on campuses filled with other kids.

We feel they are ready for this step in their lives, but that doesn’t mean we haven’t been a little worried about them.  One of our daughters seemed to be struggling with her college decisions more than normal and more than what we expected.  I have been really worried about her.

We continue to remind them of their priorities.  What is their number one priority?  Working on their education.  This means going to class, doing their work, and maintaining their grades and scholarships.  After that, we want them to have fun.  Remember one of our Three Rules for College Students – Have fun, but look before you leap.

For me, it’s all about balance.  I did not have balance when I was their age.  All I did was work, and I did not have much fun.  I want them to do well, but I also want them to have fun.

Our Babies, Our Twins.

We’ve gotten a few calls from them.  As you might expect, they were calls with questions, problems, and for the credit card number to cover some unexpected expenses.  Sometimes, I dread answering the phone when they are calling.

So, I was pleasantly surprised when both of them called me earlier in the week, and it wasn’t because they needed something.  What?

One of them was worried about a test in an advanced class in which she had been enrolled.  The test was being given to determine if she would have to retake a lower level class or if she had been placed correctly.  She called me (not her daddy) to report that she had passed.  She will be one of only a few freshman in the class.  And she was happy.  Do you ever talk to your kids and wait to see how they really feel before responding?  That’s what I did in this case.  Just call me a little gun shy.

My other baby texted this note to me on the way to her first college class, “Hi ho hi ho, it’s off to class I go! :)”  Then, she called me (not her daddy) after she was done with her first class of college to report how well  it went.

I cannot even begin to tell you how happy this Mama is to receive these positive calls from her kids.  Calls that did not involve needing something or being upset.

I could tell that things were going well for them, socially, as I have seen their Facebook friends lists expand daily.  I’ve seen pictures of kids hanging out in their rooms, and I’ve seen posts from their high school friends and other family members, too.

So far, I haven’t seen any pictures of beer bongs or togas or girls gone wild videos.  And that’s a good thing.

They are still our babies, after all.

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